Connection
by Sydell Weiner
Is there anything more wondrous than human connection? To be seen, heard and accepted for who we are is precious, but not always easy. Like many of us, I’ve learned to feel safe in my own isolation.
On October 8th, shook by the news of Israel under attack, I knew I needed community. It was Simchas Torah, a holiday I rarely celebrated, but I got myself dressed and went to synagogue. The service was outside, and I took a seat near a woman who was sitting alone.
“Hi, I’m Sharon,” she immediately said. “I’m Sydell,” I answered. “Do you have family in Israel?“ “Yes,” she said. “My brother and his entire family live there. How about you?” “Yes,” I answered. “My granddaughter’s there studying.” We talked about our families and shared our concerns. It turned out we had a lot more than that in common.
The rabbi was very emotional and asked us all to join him up front. I have a bad knee and was reluctant to get up, but Sharon gently led the way. Before I knew it, we were drawn into the circle dancing around the torah. We were all singing, “Am Yisrael Chai,” an anthem of solidarity meaning, “The people of Israel live!” I eventually stepped aside to rest my knee. And then, like the sun passing through dark clouds, she came over to check on me.
When we returned to our seats the conversation continued. We were both retired and living alone. Her brother was orthodox, so I told her about my son. Like me, she was a new member and didn’t come regularly. So after services we exchanged numbers and promised to stay in touch.
Two weeks later there was a Dinner at temple, which I’d normally skip to avoid sitting alone. But instead I texted Sharon. “Do you want to go to the Dinner at Beth Am this Friday?” She answered immediately. “I was just deciding. Yes, let’s go together!”
It was a beautiful evening, and we enjoyed celebrating the culture we loved. But our connection is what really made the difference. It helped me remember that belonging to the Jewish community meant I’d never have to feel alone. Am Yisrael Chai, “The people of Israel live!”
Copyright 2023 by Sydell Weiner
Sydell Weiner is a retired university professor with a PHD in Performance Studies from New York University.She has published articles in academic journals, and on her Blog: www.sydellweiner.com/. She is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, living in Beverly Hills.
